Release your Inner Critic!
The voice in my head can be a real jerk! Honestly. She is nastier than anyone else in my life AND she knows all the right buttons to push. For years, I let her hold me back. And then one day, I was forced to make a decision: run away from the scary stuff ... yet again ... or face my fears, stand up and take a chance. The first time I chose door #2, my life changed dramatically. I not only kept my job, but I excelled. Two years later, I got promoted and doubled my income. Life on the other side of fear is amazing ... but first you've got to figure out how to face that inner critic. In this video, I'll give you my favorite strategy for winning the conversation with her.
0:00:00.709,0:00:06.089 everyone Kathryn buyers breed chief 0:00:03.300,0:00:09.599 strife changer with our bez I'm here 0:00:06.089,0:00:11.250 today to talk about our inner critic you 0:00:09.599,0:00:12.960 know that nasty little voice inside your 0:00:11.250,0:00:14.429 head that says who do you think you are 0:00:12.960,0:00:17.820 you're not good enough you can't do it 0:00:14.429,0:00:20.730 yep that little voice who the truth be 0:00:17.820,0:00:24.539 told has more power to hold you back in 0:00:20.730,0:00:26.490 this life than anyone else if you think 0:00:24.539,0:00:28.019 about it there are some negative 0:00:26.490,0:00:32.009 Nellie's and naysayers and people out 0:00:28.019,0:00:35.160 there who can bring you down but they 0:00:32.009,0:00:38.010 are never as loud as those fears and 0:00:35.160,0:00:40.760 those voices in your own head and they 0:00:38.010,0:00:43.260 don't have the power to tell you no you 0:00:40.760,0:00:45.120 have the power to tell you now so today 0:00:43.260,0:00:46.620 I'm going to share with you I've 0:00:45.120,0:00:48.300 actually got 10 little steps that I 0:00:46.620,0:00:50.610 recommend I just did a webinar on how to 0:00:48.300,0:00:52.410 release the inner critic and it was so 0:00:50.610,0:00:54.570 much fun talking with people about what 0:00:52.410,0:00:56.820 they have done in the past to break down 0:00:54.570,0:00:58.530 their barriers and what they've done to 0:00:56.820,0:00:59.879 find that courage and sharing stories 0:00:58.530,0:01:01.949 that I just wanted to come on today for 0:00:59.879,0:01:03.890 those of you that didn't get a chance to 0:01:01.949,0:01:07.409 join me for that webinar I want to share 0:01:03.890,0:01:10.590 probably the most powerful trick that 0:01:07.409,0:01:14.310 I've learned over the years to quiet my 0:01:10.590,0:01:16.979 fears and step through them to do the 0:01:14.310,0:01:20.130 scary things to bring me the business 0:01:16.979,0:01:21.509 and the life that I love I don't want to 0:01:20.130,0:01:23.460 share that with you okay said of all the 0:01:21.509,0:01:26.030 tips and tricks the one that really made 0:01:23.460,0:01:28.530 the biggest difference in my life is 0:01:26.030,0:01:30.450 somebody said to me I was probably 24 0:01:28.530,0:01:33.090 years old and I quite frankly was about 0:01:30.450,0:01:34.470 to get fired I was a terrible recruiter 0:01:33.090,0:01:38.549 I was working at a global consulting 0:01:34.470,0:01:41.780 firm and I was scared and insecure and I 0:01:38.549,0:01:45.180 was about to get fired and I was a wreck 0:01:41.780,0:01:47.130 and I went to somebody for advice and he 0:01:45.180,0:01:48.840 looked at me and he said what are you 0:01:47.130,0:01:51.869 afraid of and I said I don't know I had 0:01:48.840,0:01:53.869 everything and he said what's the worst 0:01:51.869,0:01:56.189 that can happen 0:01:53.869,0:01:58.950 and all of a sudden I looked at him and 0:01:56.189,0:02:02.159 I said well I'm gonna get fired that's 0:01:58.950,0:02:03.450 the worst that can happen and he said is 0:02:02.159,0:02:05.909 that really the worst thing that can 0:02:03.450,0:02:07.770 happen and I said yeah it'd be horrible 0:02:05.909,0:02:09.989 it'd be devastating I don't know how I 0:02:07.770,0:02:12.400 would live with myself if I got fired 0:02:09.989,0:02:16.530 and he said well let's play this out 0:02:12.400,0:02:18.489 if you got fired what would you do and 0:02:16.530,0:02:21.340 in an instant 0:02:18.489,0:02:23.709 my whole body language changed and I 0:02:21.340,0:02:25.780 leaned forward and I said well I'd go 0:02:23.709,0:02:28.569 get another job I mean if I got fired 0:02:25.780,0:02:30.010 I'd get another job and at that point I 0:02:28.569,0:02:32.019 was living in Minnesota which is where 0:02:30.010,0:02:34.180 I'm not from and I said I'll just move 0:02:32.019,0:02:36.459 back to Seattle which is also not where 0:02:34.180,0:02:38.260 I'm from but I just moved from Seattle I 0:02:36.459,0:02:39.760 said I'll go move back to Seattle move 0:02:38.260,0:02:41.590 in with my sister for a little bit 0:02:39.760,0:02:43.900 I'll go get a job I know I can get as a 0:02:41.590,0:02:45.879 bartender or a tour guide 0:02:43.900,0:02:48.069 you know bus driver I'll just go get a 0:02:45.879,0:02:51.190 job quickly to pay the bills while I 0:02:48.069,0:02:54.010 figure out my plan B and he looked at me 0:02:51.190,0:02:55.030 and he said my job is done there you go 0:02:54.010,0:02:57.819 and I said what what do you mean your 0:02:55.030,0:03:01.329 job is done and he said you've answered 0:02:57.819,0:03:03.790 the the scariest question if you do 0:03:01.329,0:03:05.349 everything right if you try to succeed 0:03:03.790,0:03:07.629 as a recruiter and you still fail and 0:03:05.349,0:03:10.000 you get fired you're actually gonna be 0:03:07.629,0:03:11.769 okay you aren't gonna end up on the 0:03:10.000,0:03:15.599 streets you're not gonna go hungry 0:03:11.769,0:03:19.060 you're gonna be okay so that question 0:03:15.599,0:03:23.049 what's the worst that can happen forced 0:03:19.060,0:03:25.060 me to identify my deepest fear and my 0:03:23.049,0:03:29.709 deepest fear was failure and getting 0:03:25.060,0:03:33.730 fired and it also gave me the power to 0:03:29.709,0:03:36.220 say if that happens then what and to 0:03:33.730,0:03:38.440 realize I would survive and I had a plan 0:03:36.220,0:03:42.069 B so anyway that's my tip for you today 0:03:38.440,0:03:45.430 and on how to quiet your inner critic 0:03:42.069,0:03:47.530 put her in the corner and step through 0:03:45.430,0:03:50.319 your fears to achieve the things that 0:03:47.530,0:03:51.760 you want to do in your life at work in 0:03:50.319,0:03:53.370 your community and your family whatever 0:03:51.760,0:03:56.079 it is those things are dreaming about 0:03:53.370,0:03:57.940 you do have the skills you are smart 0:03:56.079,0:03:59.530 enough you are good enough now it 0:03:57.940,0:04:01.000 doesn't mean that it's gonna be easy and 0:03:59.530,0:04:03.280 it doesn't mean that you're not going to 0:04:01.000,0:04:06.160 get knocked down lord knows I get 0:04:03.280,0:04:08.410 knocked flat all the time but I stand 0:04:06.160,0:04:11.049 back up again and I get back in the game 0:04:08.410,0:04:13.720 because I've learned how to face my 0:04:11.049,0:04:16.780 inner critic identify the underlining of 0:04:13.720,0:04:17.889 fear and deal with it so that's your tip 0:04:16.780,0:04:20.260 for the day I hope you find it helpful 0:04:17.889,0:04:23.800 and I hope that you go out and chase 0:04:20.260,0:04:25.570 your dreams whatever they are and I tell 0:04:23.800,0:04:29.940 you what one of my favorite quotes 0:04:25.570,0:04:33.790 is reach for the moon even if you miss 0:04:29.940,0:04:36.450 you'll still land among the stars thanks 0:04:33.790,0:04:36.450 for tuning in